Drivers and the art of being nice

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Drivers and the Art of Being Nice

I’ve never seen myself as a particularly nice person, but it seems that the image I project to others is different. In a social environment, this isn’t a bad thing - it allows me to socialize and interact with others. According to the 16 Personalities website (www.16personalities.com), I’m a “Virtuoso.” What does that mean? Well, according to their test, I’m 67% introverted, 71% observant, 69% thinking, 66% prospecting, and 64% turbulent (ISTP-T for those who love acronyms). You can take a free personality test here: https://www.16personalities.com/free-personality-test/fd37ee1e857dd.

I went through this process to understand some of my personality traits. Most of the time, I feel out of place in the world around me and like I don’t fit into the system. It’s like Neo in The Matrix - feeling like life has to be something totally different than what he’s been experiencing. And so do I most of the time. I don’t always understand social conduct or appreciate the traits of those around me. Sometimes I don’t even recognize kind gestures from others. I spend a lot of time judging other people’s behavior and asking myself why they behave the way they do. Why don’t people respect the boundaries of others? Why do people insult and disrespect others?

We spend most of our lives inside boxes - our cars when we travel to work or for leisure, our houses where we carry out our daily routines like eating and sleeping, coffee shops where we have our lattes and americanos and cinnamon rolls (mmm… I love cinnamon rolls), and our jobs where we spend most of our time during the workweek. We’re confined to spaces that limit our ability to be normal humans and explore our surroundings. We’re less connected with nature and have less time to spend with friends and children. These limitations make it harder for us to develop the skills to be kinder to others and drive less aggressively


 While driving, people can become aggressive when provoked by things like an aggressive overtake, someone tailgating them, or someone cutting them off at an intersection or in a traffic jam. If everyone were just a little more considerate and helpful on the road, we could all be more relaxed and happier. People need to be kinder to each other and drive more safely.

Peace!

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